Paul started his career as a counselor for Domestic Violence and Abuse. Today, after twelve years of guiding and coaching more than 2,000 couples, he is focused on something different: preventing the damage before it happens.
“I wanted to prevent domestic violence and abuse before lives and marriages are shattered,” Paul explains. His shift from crisis intervention to preventive relationship counseling services reflects a practical realization— : teaching couples communication skills early to save prevent them from reaching a breaking point later.
A Cookbook for Marriage
Paul’s approach is deliberately nonacademic. His recently published book, “Marriage and Communication: Recipes for Life!” abandons traditional chapter formats entirely. Instead, it’s structured like a cookbook, with recipes and simple directions.
“There are no chapters to read or understand, just easy-to-follow recipes with simple directions,” Paul says. “Follow directions, enjoy your cake. The cake is your marriage.”
The manual-style format isn’t just a gimmick. It’s designed for couples to grab off the shelf when and what they need it, rather than requiring them to absorb relationship theory. His five-session program for couples follows the same philosophy: couples learn and adopt essential skills and best practices for a resilient, loving marriage that lasts a lifetime.
From Newlyweds to Empty Nesters
Paul’s client base spans the full spectrum of marriage. He works with engaged couples preparing for marriage, newlyweds adjusting to life together, young parents juggling children and careers, empty nesters rediscovering each other, and couples seeking to restore trust and forgiveness after infidelity.
Paul’s marriage counseling approach remains consistent across these different stages: practical communication tools that couples can implement immediately. It’s the opposite of open-ended therapy that can stretch for months or years.
Taking Skills to Teenagers and Schools
Paul’s next book, due before the end of 2025, extends his prevention philosophy even further back. “Speak Up, Stand Strong, Be Safe: A Teenager’s Guide to Relationships and Communication” targets both teens and professional educators.
His goal is to empower educators to introduce and integrate relationship and communication skills into educational curricula—what he calls a “Fourth R,” relationship and communication skills, alongside the traditional “Three Rs,” Reading, Riting, and ‘Rithmetic. It’s an ambitious proposition, providing educators with the resources to formalize teaching that’s typically left to parents or learned through trial and error.
Beyond schools, Paul envisions his methods spreading to matchmakers, dating coaches, human resources departments, and businesses. His longer-term aspirations include reaching international audiences, particularly English language learners who might benefit from straightforward communication skills training as they learn to speak English.
For someone who began responding to families confronted by domestic violence, Paul’s current work represents a fundamental shift in timing. Rather than helping people pick up the pieces after a relationship crisis, he’s teaching them how to build something that won’t break in the first place.